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Submissive straight women can read terrible erotica if they want like everybody's allowed some garbage entertainment BUT I keep having to see little previews for those twilight/fifty shades clone type books about some fucking. Guy. And I do hate them so much. These men never sound remotely appealing I'm getting advertisements like "ooh I'm gonna getcha little girl 😈" and I just want to mace him. The instincts this activates in me are not horny I want to attack him like a chimp
I have never wanted anyone less than the love interest in every generic dark fantasy whatever the fuck romance book. You know. I do not want a man who just threatens and patronizes me & it's supposed to be dirty talk. I don't want tall brooding and bad at bdsm. Describing the way he smells with an adjective that doesn't make sense like how men's deodorant is named wolf fire or something. This is the line you're going with to advertise your book? What does the rest sound like??? Who is actually reading these. Why are there so many. Where am I
Exactly!
the mean-flirting thing doesn't work with me i'll literally want to kill you if you're mean to me even once
I get it! I’m also the same
Lol the current patriarchy is what protects bad men
@mrsplashes, literally their logic is men can do whatever they want and women should just deal with it.
Thinking about how popular Mai would've been if she were a boy. Like, can you imagine?people would've swooned over her like they swoon over, idk, Jet—it just occured to me that I like her because she's so unconventional for a female character.
Girls like Mai exist in real world—but women are rarely allowed to be complex and three dimensional and grey in fiction.
I would argue that Mai is a grey character; she did start out as Azula's lackey. And well, that's a fictional girl; I found her apathy stan-worthy.
I love that she constantly has a bitch face. She cracks dry/dark jokes. Wears black. Is mysterious and stoic. Does everything she can to disregard authority/even though she's not confrontational about it. (There's one difference. Bad boys are usually very confrontational).
All these characteristics exist in popular male characters. (Except for one thing that I've noticed: most of these “bad boy” characters are volatile and yet, are described as broody/stoic, like, dude. That ain't stoic, that's so emotional.)
So yeah. Coming back to Mai. Imagine if she were a boy.
A boy who's apathetic and has no passion for anything. A boy who's constantly bored/a thrill-seeker/has nothing he cares about. A boy who has a shutter for a face and rarely expresses himself, is amazing with knives and hand-to-hand combat and is gloomy.
There's nothing he cares about because caring gets people hurt and everyone wants something and is two-faced so it's safe to be a mask of indifference. Until—hold on—until he meets a passionate, hot-headed girl who's ✨ different ✨and if not anything, wears her heart on her sleeve/is an open book...
Yes, I'm talking about Zuko.
...and oh, oh, would you look at that? Now he has something to fight for!
I mean, for Mai, Zuko (after Ty Lee) is the only other person in front of whom she can be herself.
Reminds me of “he's only nice to her” trope. Sorry.
“You're so beautiful when you hate the world.”
“I don't hate you.”
Just imagine Mai as a boy. People would eat it up. They don't like her 'cause she's a girl.
@peculiaritybending, Marinette from the show Miraculous Ladybug is essentially !Girl Zuko and people hate her impulsiveness and assertiveness, so there you go!
Submissive straight women can read terrible erotica if they want like everybody's allowed some garbage entertainment BUT I keep having to see little previews for those twilight/fifty shades clone type books about some fucking. Guy. And I do hate them so much. These men never sound remotely appealing I'm getting advertisements like "ooh I'm gonna getcha little girl 😈" and I just want to mace him. The instincts this activates in me are not horny I want to attack him like a chimp
I have never wanted anyone less than the love interest in every generic dark fantasy whatever the fuck romance book. You know. I do not want a man who just threatens and patronizes me & it's supposed to be dirty talk. I don't want tall brooding and bad at bdsm. Describing the way he smells with an adjective that doesn't make sense like how men's deodorant is named wolf fire or something. This is the line you're going with to advertise your book? What does the rest sound like??? Who is actually reading these. Why are there so many. Where am I
@jonniechill, so true
Anonymous asked:
can we ever fix white feminism?
zendayaimdb answered:
hi! so let’s get something out of the way first–i disagree that the term ‘white feminism’ has any use theoretically or practically. if you’re talking about racist white women, then i think we should just call them that, yeah? but as we well know, anti-black racism isn’t limited to white people. that’s why the term 'white feminism’ has always bothered me–i’ve personally experienced just as much hostility from latina and asian women as i have from white women. and if you’re talking about western-centric or liberal (“choice”) feminism, then i think we should be specific there, too. those are also not exclusive to white women; some of the worst, most obsequiously male-loving, pro-prostitution feminists in america are unfortunately black women.
the way the term 'white feminism’ has been deployed (mostly by men and libfems) has completely stripped it of any meaning, and it has in fact been used by black and brown libfems to attack anti-patriarchal feminism (their favorite argument is that my black/brown nigel isn’t evil like white nigel, he’s oppressed just like me!) or whatever, and it’s so trite and idiotic. that’s how you get everything from 4B to KAM being called 'white feminism’ when it really, really isn’t. it’s part of that infuriating idea that, somehow, black and brown people didn’t have misogyny (or even biological sex) before europeans taught us.
now, all that being said … i do think there is a huge issue with racism in feminist spaces. most of it is of the “microaggression” category, but i’ve seen a lot of european and mena feminists outright excusing anti-black racism and racist nationalism. there is a distinct air of superiority with some of these women, where you can tell they think there’s a marked difference between them and men of their race, but they kinda lump all black people in together, as if we’re one amorphous bloc without distinction based on class or sex.
and that’s why i think they can excuse shit like literally continuing to boost anna slatz or whatever the fuck that neo-nazi lunatic’s name is … like, for them, they can gloss over the rabid nationalism and racism because it’s for “a greater cause” … however, that’s a huge sticking point with me. i just can’t do it. so i mostly avoid all feminist spaces irl, because even the ones full of women i agree with on most issues also harbor really awful people. that’s why i just donate my money and consider teaching and writing my praxis. because i can’t have a conversation with these women irl lmao
@virgomary, the term also gives legitimacy to the idea that you can be a feminist while being racist, (wtf? No) and in my experience, these racist white women usually end up being conservative anyway. (Most right-wing women) And if these women are conservative/trads, expecting them to support any women’s movement isn’t realistic. They don’t even care about women’s issues(bodily automony/sexual assualt) when it comes to women who look like them, why would they care about women’s issues regarding women who don’t look like them?
The "radical leftists" on this site who talk constantly about the importance of solidarity and kindness and compassion and then immediately tell anyone who disagrees with them to kill themselves are going to be devastated when they learn how much of actual union organizing involves talking to people whose politics you find incredibly repugnant and meeting them where they're at in order to find common ground
Remember when polls indicated that people generally supported reassigning police funds to community services but almost no one supported it when it was called "defund the police"?
And then instead of taking it as a victory that could be expanded on in order to garner more support for actual policy changes people on here started yelling about how "they're trying to water down the movement" and "they just don't want us using radical slogans because they want to keep the sheeple complacent!"
Imagine if people cared as much about meeting people where they're at and talking and listening to them to work together as they do about getting to yell radical slogans
I do want to bring up the fact that the watering down does happen, depending on who you’re trying to bridge the gap with.
If it’s folks in the same situation as you, just with wildly different beliefs - that’s one thing. You’ve gotta take that opportunity to learn about folks, and yourself. Find common ground and solidarity in your lived experience - people love to complain and there’s a lot to complain about.
If it’s someone wealthy that you’re trying to reason with - your local government or business rep, hell even a local store manager - hold your fucking ground. Otherwise they will play you like a fucking piano. Everything you’re working for will slow to a crawl as their demands surgically cut out anything that threatens their way of life; the one built on our backs.
@calicoquiltedtranshag, this is also important! Someone who has more class power than you, meeting them where they are will be ineffective! Since they are leagues above you!
The "radical leftists" on this site who talk constantly about the importance of solidarity and kindness and compassion and then immediately tell anyone who disagrees with them to kill themselves are going to be devastated when they learn how much of actual union organizing involves talking to people whose politics you find incredibly repugnant and meeting them where they're at in order to find common ground
Remember when polls indicated that people generally supported reassigning police funds to community services but almost no one supported it when it was called "defund the police"?
And then instead of taking it as a victory that could be expanded on in order to garner more support for actual policy changes people on here started yelling about how "they're trying to water down the movement" and "they just don't want us using radical slogans because they want to keep the sheeple complacent!"
Imagine if people cared as much about meeting people where they're at and talking and listening to them to work together as they do about getting to yell radical slogans
@thecandyhouse, true
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